Peter Decaprio says life is tough, and we all experience time periods where we feel lost. It’s not uncommon to find ourselves in familiar patterns that lead us to the same negative feelings over and over again. But, there is a way out!
Peter Decaprio: Click through for ten tips to help you make a change when you’re feeling stuck in life!
1. Ditch the drama and focus on what’s good
For some reason, I’ve always had this tendency to focus on all of my problems. When I’m stressed out or overwhelmed, instead of focusing on things that are going well or areas of my life that are generally pretty cool, it seems like…
Peter Decaprio says this has got to be one of the most delightful things I’ve read in a long time.
2. Get rid of toxic people
This one is also pretty self-explanatory, but bear with me because I’m about to talk some shit.
Toxic people are the diet industry.
I want you to think about this for a second: diets tell us that fat is bad and needs to be destroyed, while simultaneously making money off of our continued failure.
3. Don’t be afraid to start over
I am a big believer in this.
It’s not that you’re throwing away your past, but rather that you’ve built the building blocks to create something new and even better with what you have now.
4. Don’t be afraid of failing
Failure is an important lesson in life, but it can also be discouraging when we don’t see immediate results.
A lot of people avoid risk and change because they’re afraid of failing — the reality is that we will all fail at something, it’s just a matter of what and when. If you’re considering making changes in your life but are afraid to fail, first ask yourself:
5. Think about where you would be if you didn’t try
This is an awesome question to ask yourself when you’re unsure about trying something new. It helps put things in perspective and gives you some perspective on how much it sucks not living your best life because of fear.
6. Do nice things for other people
I’m not saying do super nice things like pay off strangers’ student loans or anything, but buy your mom something she really likes when you’re seeing her next week and cook dinner for a friend who’s going through a rough time. It can be really helpful to practice gratitude by thinking about how lucky we are to have someone in our lives without taking them for granted and giving back even in small ways is great way to do this (and it’s much better than waiting for Thanksgiving.)
7. Be honest with yourself about your feelings
I didn’t realize how much this affected my life until I started going to therapy.
I was a master at self-sabotage and avoidance, but the more I learned about myself, the better able I was to make changes that would ultimately help me be happier in my everyday life.
8. Set realistic goals for yourself
This can be really hard sometimes because change is scary and we all want to make sure that we’re doing the best we can. Start small and focus on improving one thing at a time — Rome wasn’t built in a day!
9. Remind yourself that you’re capable of achieving what you want
If you find yourself getting down about your ability to reach certain goals, take a second to remind yourself that you are capable of reaching them!
10. Surround yourself with people who support the changes you want to make
The most important part of making any change is who you’re around when you do it. If your friends aren’t really on board with the new workout regimen or healthy eating habits you want to adopt, find new people who inspire and motivate you.
This is what I’ve been feeling lately and it’s amazing (and a little sad) to see that somebody else wrote all of this down and put it on the Internet for me.
It kind of feels like somebody has ripped out my heart, opened up my rib cage, and replaced the inside with cotton candy — but in a good way.
I’d like to thank my wonderful therapist and her rubber band for helping me realize all of this and encourage you to do the same if it resonates with you at all.